Monday, January 22, 2007

Beware the Overly Confident Syndrome

Confidence is a good thing. Those who possess it are usually quite successful (i.e. Hillary Clinton, Peyton Manning, Meryl Streep).

However, being overly confident can lead to making assumptions that you're above the fray, ultimately leading to your downfall (i.e. Donald Rumsfeld, Tony Romo, Tom Cruise).

Daters sometimes become overly confident, especially online daters. And it's easy to do.

Every day, there's your inbox, overflowing with girls. Short girls, tall girls, thin girls, wide girls, blond girls, redheaded girls, exotic girls, girls-next-door girls. And they all have one thing in common. They're interested in you. You begin to feel unstoppable. You remember gaping wide-eyed at the television as a kid, wishing you could grow up to be Superman. And you have. But lucky you, Lois Lane has multiplied by 100.

I went out with a man who was feeling a bit like Superman. However, he hid it well on the date and we had a nice evening.

After the date, Superman emailed me to tell me that he had a nice time. That's when he made the mistake of believing his own hype...

"I must apologize for my manners in not walking you home. I don't know what the heck I was thinking! Anyway, I didn't want to end the evening with any decisions that would have dampened our spirits."

What? Did he really assume I'd sleep with him just for walking me home?

It's ok to be confident. Hell, it's ok to be overly confident and think you can bed every woman who crosses your path. However, you must hide the overly confident thoughts. Truth is, in the dating game, you are not above the fray. Every one of your Lois Lanes has at least 200 Supermen in her inbox.


Sarah said...

Oh jeez. Did you reply? What did you say back? I hope it was snarky.

Cute Jewess said...

Ahhh, yes. Confidence = self-assurance. Over-confidence = Next!

This was my story of over-confident guy.

adventure boy said...

In the spirit of equality might I just to add that this also goes for women, esp. the desirable ones. I don't know how many times (but it's a lot) that I have seen women get high on attention and blowing perfectly good blokes off.

The Dauntless Dater said...

Sarah: I'm sorry to say, but my response was lame. Just one of the 'I don't think it's going to work out' kind. Smartass comebacks are something I need to work on!

Jewess: I see you've met them too?

Adventure: Good point. We women certainly make all kinds of mistakes. However, we do a damn good job of keeping the self-help industry in business!

Anonymous said...

I'm going to buck the consensus on this one. Is it at least *possible* that this guy just meant he felt he had made the wrong decision in not walking you home? Just a thought.

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